When a guy and girl become close friends, people say it's usually a matter of time before one of them falls for the other. Sometimes, the timing is not right, and the friendship is ruined. Sometimes, the timing works out, but the relationship doesn't, and the friendship is ruined anyway. Sometimes, the timing is not right, but the friendship survives, and actually grows stronger as a result. And sometimes, the relationship works out, and they live happily ever after. Vicious cycles. I hate vicious cycles as much as i hate waking up after 8am, or spicy food or allergies.
Now, I am not saying that this is true of all cases. It probably isn't. Overgeneralization is a nasty mistake to make.
But for a case I know, this little nugget of wisdom rang true.
They started out as friends. Then they started texting each other on a regular basis. They grew closer. Secrets were exchanged, and in the process, an implicit bond of trust was formed. Time passed. Troubles came and went. They helped each other weather some storms, sharing advice and experiences. As they grew to know more and more about each other, their bond deepened. At that moment, their paths were intertwined like the threads in a cloth. (plays Secret Valentine as background music)
Then, things changed rapidly. He fell for her. Storms, the most dangerous yet, began to brew. A few tumultuous weeks pass. He ultimately fails. Although outwardly fine, he is badly broken up inside. He agrees to continue being friends, but he is struggling. Oversensitive, and with his thoughts and emotions spiralling out of control, he is forced to make a move that no one should ever have to make. (plays Your Call as background music)
His feelings for her are affecting the friendship. It is getting difficult to talk to her. He begins to lose his nerve around her. Jabbering nervously to her friends, but not to her. He's afraid of talking to her. He begins to think too much, blowing little things out of proportion. He begins to suspect that she is avoiding him, even though she says she isn't avoiding him. (plays Broken as background music)
Hoping that distance will ease the situation, he puts a plan into action. He will take a break, and stop communication with her for a period of time. He avoids having lunch with her, and stops looking around for her in his free time. He buries himself in work. There are assignments and projects to be done. He works till late at night, falling into bed exhausted, with no time to think. He misses texting her and chatting with her, but does not give himself time to dwell on it. Healing is a long and painstaking process. (plays Forget You as background music)
After some time, some progress is made. He no longer gets twinges everytime he sees her face. The feelings are very much still there, but the intensity is slowly decreasing. It'll take time, but by the end, he hopes that they will be able to go back to what it was before. The rain clouds may still hang overhead, but I think that you find that the most breathtaking sunrises usually occur after a great storm in the night. There is hope for the future.
So, you still think so?
